Confidence can be learned. 
Let us use public speaking as an example. As a speaker, you’re relating directly to an audience. Any group needs to believe that you seem comfortable, that you have confidence in yourself. Otherwise, they’ll never be able to have confidence in your message.

Without confidence, you have:
• Fear.
• Stress.
• Tension.
• Self-consciousness.
• A rapid heartbeat that you can feel.
• Disorganized thoughts.
• Dryness (in your mouth).
• Wetness (everywhere else).
• Evident signs of discomfort.

With confidence, you have:
• Control (of self and audience).
• Comfort.
• Presence of mind to think.
• Positive nervous energy making you dynamic.
• The ability to concentrate on your message and your audience.

How to gain confidence
In anything you do, the greater your confidence in yourself and your abilities, the stronger your impact.
That’s not cockiness, mind you. It’s being prepared. It’s knowing how to take control of your own metabolism and turn your stress into nervousness that generates enthusiasm and energy.

The concept is easy to understand, but just how do you go about taking control of your metabolism? After all, your heart rate is racing. Your blood pressure is over the top.
The key to this is simple. The secret to controlling stress is diaphragmatic breathing. It’s the way the baby breathes when the umbilical cord is severed,
meaning that it’s natural breathing. If anything can be labeled “organic” or “100 percent natural,” it’s diaphragmatic breathing. It’s a fact. There’s a way to breathe that can work against you, especially in a difficult situation, and there’s a way to breathe properly that can help make that same difficult situation less stressful.
Improper breathing can be a roadblock. Remember the speaker who kept gasping for breath and audibly sucking in air in the middle of sentences? Remember the ones who preceded every fifth word with “uh . . . uh . . . uh” until you could think of nothing but their discomfort and your own boredom? In each case you remember that you were in pain for them.
But do you remember the message? Probably not. In winter, the coughs and sneezes you suffer are usually a sign that something is wrong. You probably have a cold. You’re getting sick. In much the same way, the “uh . . . uh . . . uhs” and the stammering and groping are signs that something is wrong.
That “something” is lack of control, lack of competence and lack of confidence.
They’re communication killers.
Fortunately, this handicap is curable with proper breathing and silent pauses.

Assumptions to consider
• First:
Assume you’re faced with a difficult situation, maybe even a crisis situation.

• Second:
Of course, you want to handle it successfully. In order to do this, you must obtain and maintain control. That means control of your stress and your thought process. You can do it with proper breathing. Keep in mind that no good vocal coach ever let a student make the first sound until the student had mastered proper breathing techniques.

No shortcuts
There are no shortcuts, so take it slowly. You may find the progress complicated by old, improper breathing habits you’ve acquired over the years. You have to learn to replace them with new, correct ones you’re about to develop.

It is never too late to build yourself and nothing is impossible.


  1. This is awesome,you're heading for the top,keep it up...cheers!


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